1. WE LIKE IT WET
Whoever said “wetter is better” was absolutely talking about the
benefits of lube. Lubricant is the most underrated resource, yet it
holds the key to enhancing sexual pleasure! Still, many men still balk
when a partner pulls a bottle out of her nightstand. Is she “dried up”?
Does she have a hormone imbalance? Am I *gasp* not turning her on?
2. DON’T FEAR THE VIBRATOR
Admit it: You love gadgets. From your FitBit to your electric razor to
your Apple TV, you are a huge fan of anything that can simplify your
life and makes you look and feel good while doing it. So why would you
shy away from a gadget that can make sex twice as satisfying for both
you and your partner with half the effort?
No woman on record has ever left her guy for a battery-operated
boyfriend, so it’s time to ditch the stereotypes you’ve heard about
using sex toys in the bedroom and embrace your partner’s goodie drawer.
As much as she loves her Magic Wand Rechargeable, she will love the
feeling of it pressed against her clitoris with you inside of her even
more! Plus, who said sex toys were just for her? A couples’ vibrator
like the We-Vibe 4 Plus lets you both enjoy a range of vibration
patterns, and can actually be worn during sex! Research shows that using
toys in the bedroom can actually bring you closer together, provide
more orgasms all around and effortlessly enhance your sex life.
3. TAKE IT SLOOOW
Patience is key when it comes to pleasing a woman, but most dudes are
all about instant gratification. You want to skip the previews and go
straight for the feature film, but here’s a secret: Women NEED the
previews. We rely on the previews to help us get turned on and revved up
for the main event. So say it with me, guys: “Foreplay is not a
suggestion. It is a requirement.”
If you have any hope of giving your lover a standing O-vation, you need
to slow everything down when it’s time get down. In fact, a good rule of
thumb is to go three times slower than you usually would. Prolong the
make out sessions, slowly undress her and get to know those other
erogenous zones before you delve into her nether regions. Women are more
like slow cookers, than frying pans so when you’re brushing up on your
foreplay skills remember that the best sex comes to those who wait.
4. IT’S ALL ABOUT THE CLITORIS
Here’s
an alarming but true fact: most women do not regularly orgasm from
intercourse alone. So while you’re pounding her vagina like a jar with a
lid that just won’t open, you’re completely missing the key to her
orgasm. I get it, you’re a man. You don’t ASK for directions, so I’ll
give you a hint: it’s hidden in plain sight, right ABOVE the doorway
you’ve been knocking at.
The
clitoris may not look like much, but don’t be fooled by its appearance.
That little love button houses 8,000 nerve endings (twice as many as
the head of the penis), making it your new best friend. During foreplay,
try stroking the area around the clitoris before rubbing it gently in a
circular motion with your index and middle finger. If you’re not sure
how she likes to be touched, have her show you herself! Once you become
comfortable with speed and pressure, feel free to explore it with your
mouth and tongue. And since somewhere around 75% of women actually
require clitoral stimulation to orgasm, you’re going to want to pay
close attention to it during your favorite sex positions as well.
5. THE BRAIN IS THE LARGEST SEX ORGAN
If
you really want to please a woman, you’ve got to move from top to
bottom. While your genitals are pretty much running the show from the
first suggestion of sexual activity, your partner needs a little more
stimulation above the belt to get her there. No, I’m not talking about
her breasts (although those could use some love too!) I’m referring to
her big sexy brain.
The largest sex organ for a woman is her mind, so that is where the
action should start. Words are aphrodisiacs for many women, especially
when those words are chock full of affirmations that fill her need to
feel sexy and desired. If you really want to wow your partner, paint a
verbal picture of all the things you want to do to her by whispering in
her ear. This has both physical and mental appeal - your warm breath on
her ears will send chills down her spine, while your hot words speak to
her sexual desire
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